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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 195: Sewing on my Shadow

Dear Shadow, 

I keep you near because you teach me how to appreciate the good things in my life. 

You are my dark side- the stories and vulnerabilities, the fears and hurts, the sadness and the pain. 

As long as there is light in my life, you will exist and I will not ignore you. I sew you on to keep you grounded and secure, and with me. You are a part of me, but you do not define me. I will learn from you, but I will not focus on you all the time. 

Love, Belinda (I made you)

SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 159: The Dark Side


As long as there is light, the shadow will follow me around. The shadow contains my stories, my baggage, my traumas, my hurts, my failures, my reactions, my grievances, my denials, my shame, and all of my dark stuff. The brighter I allow my world to be (and I have been allowing more light in these days), the more defined my shadow becomes. It is becoming easier and easier to spot, and sometimes I can see it before others do. This gives me freedom, and choice, and the ability to create my life consciously.

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Sewing on my Shadow

SelfLove365: Day 195

During a healing session with Roxanne, she asked me to go into the well in my heart. This visualization was very clear for me: the well was deep, dark, damp, and scary. I entered it from a vast library, and as I went down into the well, with Roxanne at my side, I was scared, but she encouraged me to go to the bottom (I didn’t think there was a bottom, but she assured me there was one). Once I was there, I found a book on the ground: “Peter Pan”. This seemed odd to me, at first, until I remembered that I used to listen to the soundtrack often, when I was a child. I opened it, and turned to two parts in the story. One was the scene where Wendy and her brothers are first leaping from the window, into the sky. The other was the image of Wendy sewing Peter’s shadow to him. Both of these had meaning for me, which Roxanne explained, but I already knew the meanings intuitively, too. The image of sewing on the shadow was particularly important to me – I can claim my shadow side, and know that it also helps others create a clearer view of themselves, and in this way, it is a gift.