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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 202: Will


I tend to think that I lack the will-power to do the things that I say I want to do. The evidence is in my procrastination, and in how I have allowed my bad habits to control my life (spending too much time on my phone, and eating too much sugar). Lately though, my body has been speaking up, and it’s not happy. I’ve had symptoms that I think would be avoided if I stayed away from sugar. Sometimes my will needs a bit of a catalyst, or incentive, to be in working order, but I also need to be listening to my body.

This past week, I have been listening, and I have had many successful moments of sugar-avoidance. The more of these moments I can get under my belt, the easier they will become (I believe). I am using my will to form better habits so that I no longer need to use my will to overcome the bad ones.

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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 196: (love)

Every time I hear or read about someone proclaiming self love, I wonder how they are doing it. Does it come easily to them? Do they feel it all the time?

I’m in the second year of my SelfLove365 project, and I still feel like I’m a long way away from loving myself fully. I know I do a lot of great things for myself, and that in this moment I’m focussing on what I’m not doing, but so be it. Right now, all I can see are the ways in which I don’t love me. The way I allow my habits to control my life and my health and well-being. The way I allow these habits to keep me from feeling my absolute best. These are ways to maintain the truth (as I’ve always believed) about not being good enough.

When will I finally be able to let go of that belief, take control of my life, and love myself? I feel like it would be so easy to make the switch, and that it’s not complicated at all.

And yet, here I am. Still.

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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 101: Getting Shit Done


When looking ahead at my work week, I often have a really strong sense of being able to accomplish many things in very little time. I know this is possible, and I have had this experience, but when the time comes to do these things, I frequently end up procrastinating, or working very inefficiently, and I’m easily distracted.

I recently began reading “Better than Before: Mastering the Habits of our Everyday Lives”, by Gretchen Rubin. She writes about four different tendencies people have in responding to expectation. I thoroughly resonated with her description of “Obligers” – people who readily meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations. I have difficulty, at times, to motivate myself to change my habits, and I rely heavily on external accountability. This explains why I am so easily concerned about what others think of me, and why I worry about whether or not people like me. Knowing about this tendency, and its advantages and limitations, is helping me to realize how I can develop habits that I want in my life, like being efficient with my time, and not procrastinating – like getting shit done. I can use what I know about the need for external motivators to my advantage to help me meet my internal expectations. That’s the plan, anyway.

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Changing habits, repetition and breaking rules.

Changing habits in progress: noticed today as I was feeling lonely, and after putting my phone down, I had a strong hankering for a pen and sketchbook. Really strong. This is after 4 consecutive days of drawing. I want to keep this going!

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