SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 110: (hobby)


I was going to call this one, “(knitting)”, but it’s not just about knitting, because a new hobby is calling me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not giving up knitting. I have way too much yarn to do that, and I still love it, too. I’ve committed to making only hand knit (or handmade) gifts for my nephew, and I am also about halfway through knitting the “Bel cardigan”, which was named after me and designed by my amazing and supremely talented friend, Mandy Moore.

Now, I want to learn how to play the guitar. I’ve played three band instruments in my lifetime (clarinet, flute and trombone), and spent a summer learning how to play the harp, but I’ve never before had an interest in, or lay a hand on, a guitar. Recently, I’ve had the pleasure of watching and listening to Braden play guitar, and the more I’ve heard, the more I’ve become interested in trying. He taught me a few riffs last night, and I could almost feel my brain working at it, like it was lifting weights. This feels fun and challenging, and developing new neural pathways seems like a smart thing for a 42 year old brain to do. I can’t wait to rock out!

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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 109: Helpful


Today I risked feeling like too much by sharing this with 70 people at a retreat: for most of my life, I thought I wasn’t very sexual – that I could live the rest of my life without sex and be just fine with that. I feel very differently now. I have changed, my circumstances and relationships have changed, and I am beginning to see the connection between the flow of my sexual energy and the flow of my creative energy. It’s really all the same thing, my life force, and I want it all to be flowing! My experiences have been powerfully healing, beautiful beyond words, and incredibly exciting. I am hopeful that by sharing this with others, I am also being helpful: by giving others hope, by giving them permission to speak up and make changes in their lives, or to have someone to talk to (yes, I would love to talk to you about this!).

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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 108: Playful


I don’t feel playful right now. I’m angry. But, I’m also wearing a rainbow tutu, rainbow leg warmers, and miniature rainbow cake earrings, with sprinkles. Is it possible to be playful and angry at the same time? I suppose it is. I played Marilyn Manson, punched my pillow, and stomped around like a three year old having a temper tantrum (while wearing my tutu). I am playfully angry. I’m hoping to move past the anger into something else, but I can see how that’s just another way for me to resist my anger. For now, I’ll sit with being angry. In my tutu.

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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 107: Present


How can I be truly present to what this moment has to offer me?
(can I stop worrying about how I appear to others?)

How can I be truly present to this person in front of me?
(can I let go of all my pre-conceived ideas of who you are and allow you to show up as someone completely unknown to me?)

How can I be truly present to what my body is telling me?
(can I pause, be still, and listen to the messages?)

What if I’m not truly present?
(can I allow for spacing out, for not being perfect at being present, for being present to something other than the world around or inside me?)

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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 106: Intuition


Lately, my intuition has been heightened, to the point of sending me signals about things before they even happen. Sometimes I miss the signals, and realize soon afterwards where I had missed them. Recently, though, I have caught the signals, and predicted events before they occurred. It’s been rather freaky! But maybe not, really, since I suppose that’s what intuition implies, isn’t it – a knowing about something before it happens. Maybe my “heightened” intuition is no more than a greater awareness of what was already there to begin with.

I appreciate having the subtle intuition of my body – when it tells me that something I say isn’t going to land quite right, or when it gives me the instinct to change the direction I am taking, to choose another path.

The body is like a radio, picking up frequencies from the universe, translating them into something I can understand. Whether or not I choose to listen is up to me.

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SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 105: Friends


These are the people who hold me up when I’m feeling down.

These are the wonders who put a smile on my face and listen to me cry.

These are the crazies who sing off-key and understand my silliness.

These are the serious ones who get my quirks and know that I get theirs.

These are the shining lights who I don’t spend a lot of in-person time with, but their online comments cheer me on.

These are the beautiful souls who want to see me, who want to hear me.

Thank you, friends.


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SelfLove 365, Year 2, Day 104: (little girl)


Last night, a friend described me as exuberant and outgoing. This description surprised me. Apparently my self-analysis hasn’t changed much from when I was 8 years old; I still see myself as shy, quiet, introverted, and sensitive. Comments like the one I received last night remind me how much my external persona has changed, but also how much I still internally identify as a little girl. She is still wanting, and needing, attention, comfort, safety, security, support, and lots of cuddles.

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