“You need to figure out what you want”, he said to me. “You told me you wanted this, and now you want that. What is it you want?”
My wants change moment to moment. It’s been suggested to me that that is wrong, that I need to figure out what I want and lock those desires in place. I suppose this kind of change or uncertainty is scary for some people, but I need to know it’s okay for me to change my mind, and that just because I want something now doesn’t mean I still have to want it five minutes from now.
“How much do you want this thing?” he asked me. How do I answer this – on a scale of 1 to 10? Relative to other things? How much I want something changes by so many factors and feelings – it’s almost impossible to tease the pure want out from all the influences.