A friend once half-jokingly (or maybe it was in all seriousness) said to me, “It’s all about you, Belinda”. I can easily get caught up in the workings of my mind, in thinking about my life, in working out how I can become a better person, that I lose all perspective and no longer notice others around me. Growing up, I felt isolated from others and often kept to myself, so this has been a fairly normal place for me to be. I often judge myself for it, though, thinking I would be a better person if I paid more attention to other people and their needs. Perhaps that is true, and I frequently experiment with that hypothesis. I haven’t concluded anything yet, except that this self-absorption is just another part of myself, and there’s not much point in trying to reject it completely.