SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 20: (vagina)


Oh God – I have been dreading writing this one!

Random thoughts on the vagina:

  • Read the book, “Vagina”, by Naomi Wolf – totally worth it.
  • I hate the word “vagina”. It’s so clinical sounding and lots of times that’s not even the anatomical part being spoken of. How about pussy, cunt or yoni instead? More all-encompassing.
  • It can feel more pleasure than I even knew was possible.
  • When my son was born, he decided to wave hello with his hand alongside his head, giving me a second degree tear. Yeah, that hurt. “Now I know what the ‘Ring of Fire’ is!” I yelled.
  • There is so much potential for healing through the yoni. So much tension (our own and our sexual partners’) is stored there; and if released, this can be so satisfying and wonderfully healing.
  • The ultimate shame for me is stored in my yoni- how I look (I’m not a fucking porn star! So sue me), how I smell, how I taste – these are all very personal things that create so much apprehension and worry for women (yeah, me) because society thinks it can dictate what they should be. We are told to be tight, clean shaven, smell like flowers, look like little girls. Being told what my body “should” be like, especially a part that’s not seen by just about everyone, seems stupid to me. I once attended a women’s gathering where we were to look at (no, admire) our pussies and notice their beauty, to treasure this part of us. It was so difficult for me – I cried. A lot. To me, it felt like a dirty, ugly thing, and why would anyone ever want to look at it?
  • But really, why not? I would love to change my perspective on this. To view the yoni as another beautiful body part, as elegant and useful and wonderful and beautiful as the fingers, the calves, the neck and the hips. I want to embrace all my parts and love them all. I want to stop worrying about what someone else might think. I want to really get to know my yoni and what it likes (That sounds like fun.)

5 thoughts on “SelfLove365, Year 2, Day 20: (vagina)

  1. Sarah

    It has taken me years of hard work to get over my shame around the way my vulva looks. I’m not a porn star either. I used to see the parts I didn’t like as something my partners would have to put up with. When I was young and exploring my body, I actually thought I was growing a penis because I masturbated too much (and girls don’t masturbate, you know). I can remember very shameful nights where I explored my vulva, hands trembling with anxiety, afraid of what I might find. Sex education really fails women by not showing us pictures of real genitals. It would have saved me so much grief. Recently, through a lot of caring self exploration and really good sex with a very patient and enthusiastic partner, I’ve finally fallen in love with my vulva. I now see the things I saw as flaws before as special features!

  2. snakeskinned

    I love the colours of your site. Pretty funky stuff! And thanks for your theme! Yoni healing! Check out “Healing sexual numbness” at We are all working for this paradigm shift that celebrates women’s sexuality… a new! : )


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