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Painting Slowly=New Ideas!

SelfLove365: Day 190

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I spent the afternoon painting at Lovecraft Gallery, which means company, different music than I’m used to, and a change of scenery. I found myself painting slowly; it almost felt too slow, after all the 20-minute paintings I’ve been doing! After a discussion of tentacles, I noticed that there were tentacle-ish shapes appearing on my painting, something new. They look more like brains, or Korean graffiti, maybe. I’m liking it, whatever it is.

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Self Love 365 – Live at Wolf Willow Studio!

For the last few months, I’ve been thinking about teaching, but not getting down to work and actually planning a class. As a professional procrastinator, this is nothing new. A few days ago, I was asked if I would teach a class about the Self Love inchie project I have been working on. I said, “YES!” and jumped right in. I love getting that kind of kick in the butt to get me moving!

I’ve really enjoyed collaborating with Michelina Bamford at Wolf Willow Studios, and I am super excited to share this project next week!

Here are the details!

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Belinda Fireman and Wolf Willow Studio present a romantic evening of appreciative, fun, adoration and art for the most deserving and important person in your life – YOU!

Based on Belinda’s compelling 365 art projects, this accomplished artist will share her annual endeavor to shine more light on her soul via easy, colorful, meaningful practice. After an informal presentation and demonstration from Belinda, students will be creating their very own “inchie” art pieces that reflect and acknowledge their own beauty! (Absolutely no artistic experience is required to love!)

Please learn more about Belinda and Self Love 365 here: http://belindafireman.wordpress.com/2014/01/28/self-love-365/

Our Self Love Valentines celebration will be complete with the addition of a selection of beautiful teas and chocolate from local proprietor, Naked Leaf Teas and maybe even some special gifts and surprises!

Please bring: Your commitment and favourite drawing supplies.

Conscious Investment: Includes supplies, treats, support and LOVE!

$25.00 online registration, or $30.00 at the door.

*Space is limited! If not registering online, please confirm your attendance to create@wolfwillowstudio.ca

“Do I love myself? I wasn’t sure with the voices in my head telling me otherwise. With the hopes of growing more compassion and gentleness towards myself, I chose to commit to a practice of drawing one thing every day that I love about myself”. –Belinda Fireman

To register online, please follow this link:
http://wolfwillowstudio.ca/new-products/self-love-365

Painting with Children

At the end of school, the class parents always purchase a gift for the teachers. This year, our teacher’s assistant, Miss Hema, was leaving, so we wanted to make her gift extra special. One of the parents came up with the idea of making a painting for her, or rather, me making a painting for her. I liked the idea, and thought it would be great to include the children.

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After preparing the canvas with its first layer of paint (which I typically do in a very messy fashion, slapping on paints at the end of a painting session), I brought my easel, brushes, and paints into the Grade One classroom. The children were very eager to help. One by one, they each made a heart on the painting, using the colours and brushes of their choice. I asked them to send a kind message or memory of Miss Hema into their heart. When they were all finished, I brought the painting home, unsure about how it was all going to come together; there was so much orange on the painting, I found it quite garish.

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Well, I am always amazed at how a painting can come together, becoming cohesive so beautifully. It’s always a bonus when it only takes an extra layer or two (especially with a deadline!!) I brought the painting back into the classroom so all the children could sign their names on the reverse. Miss Hema was very pleased!

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Inspire at Triple Flip

I’m so excited to show you my art on a bodysuit, made by Triple Flip!! Triple Flip is a Canadian clothing company, with roots right here in Calgary! The clothes are bright and bold, and they have a special focus on fit, which is really important for the preteen years; anyone with preteen girls knows how hard it can be to find clothes that fit properly, are age-appropriate, AND look good.

Over a year ago, the company asked me if they could use this painting to create a bodysuit:

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Here it is… how cool is this?! I love it!

Photo from Triple Flip.

Photo from Triple Flip.

Photo from Triple Flip.

Photo from Triple Flip.

Body Science

A discussion about when to talk to your children about sex came up at school today, as it does just about every year. I am pretty outspoken about this one, and I would like to share some thoughts on this.

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It’s important to use proper language with children from the time they are able to speak. Euphemisms for body parts aren’t helpful. In a pamphlet called, “It’s Easier Than You Think!: Talking with your children about sexual health and well-being”, published by Sexual Health Access Alberta, it says, “after all, we don’t call our elbows ‘bend-bends’.” Funny, but so true. If you start using the proper words early, not only are children able to discuss their body parts with ease (which is apparently a factor in preventing sexual abuse), but there is less embarrassment when you finally decide to have “the talk”. A great book for naming body parts at a very young age is,

“The Bare Naked Book” by Kathy Stinson.

Many parents I know are waiting for their children to ask them questions before discussing anything to do with babies, sex, or puberty. While lots of children do ask questions, many don’t, which is why it is great to start having conversations with them when they are young. Books are a wonderful way to introduce the topic, especially if you are somewhat embarrassed, or don’t know how to express things in an age appropriate way.

Up until children begin grade school, simple answers are best, but once they are around 6 years old, they are ready for brief descriptions of sexual intercourse. Some parents find this to be too early, but for many children, they simply take this in as information, no differently than learning about how food is cooked, or why we bleed when cut. It’s just information to them, and will only become stigmatized if we present it that way. As one mother pointed out to me today, children hear things on the playground; this is why they need to hear it from us first! Better that they get the right information from their parents, than bits and pieces of who-knows-what from their friends.

Now, I’m not saying there needs to be a load of detail. Simple, age-appropriate answers are key, and there are many books aimed at this age group (6-8), that describe sex, sexuality, babies, and puberty on a very basic, but honest, level. Some of my favorites are:

“Boys, Girls & Body Science” by Meg Hickling
“Where Did I Come From” by Peter Mayle (a 1973 classic that I grew up on!)
“It’s So Amazing” by Robie H. Harris

Once children are about 9, they need information about puberty, if they haven’t received it already! Considering girls are getting their periods as young as 8 or 9, discussing it even earlier would be helpful for them. Children need to know that the way they are developing is perfectly normal. Some great books for discussing puberty, sexual decision-making, STDs, pregnancy prevention, and abuse, are:

“It’s Perfectly Normal” by Robie H. Harris
“Girlology’s There’s Something New About You” by Melisa Holmes & Trish Hutchison
(I don’t have boys puberty books yet, because my son is only 6!)

According to teachingsexualhealth.ca, “studies have shown that when parents talk openly with their children about sexuality it leads to less risky behavior, less conformity to what they think others are doing, and helps them to view their parents as good sources of information.” Having a talk with your children once isn’t going to do suffice, either. This needs to be an ongoing discussion – we all learn better with repetition; I find when I talk to my children about sex, they usually have forgotten a lot of what we discussed the last time.

My daughters have these books at their disposal, and they do read them from time to time. But I also like to sit down with them at night, and read a few chapters to them, instead of the usual action-fantasy book. It opens the door for questions, and sometimes they end up revealing things to me that they may not have told me otherwise.

To end, I will share the “Talking Tips” from the “It’s Easier than you Think” pamphlet.

Door Openers
-What do you think?
-That’s a good question.
-Tell me what you know about that?
-Do you know what that word means?
-Let’s look that up online.
-Help me understand what you’re feeling.
-I’m really glad you told me about that.

Door Slammers
-You’re too young.
-That’s none of your business.
-Where did you hear that?
-If you say that word again I’ll…
-I don’t care what your friends are doing.
-That’s just for boys (girls).
-We’ll talk about that when you need to know.

Messages Worth Repeating
-Your body belongs to you.
-Everyone develops in their own way.
-What you’re experiencing is normal.
-I may not know the answer, but you can ask me anything.
-I trust you’ll make the decision that’s right for you.
-Your sexuality lasts a lifetime – value your experiences and your relationships.”

For more information on sexual education, go to http://teachingsexualhealth.ca, where you’ll find a wealth of resources, answers to all sorts of questions, myths & facts, and more.